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Send me those comments.....it's good therapy!
Momma Kath
Okay we've been trying for our third for many many months after our second passed away at 3 days old. People keep telling me "God doesn't give you what you can't handle" Okay so I couldn't handle her possible health problems...I'm that inadequate so that why my baby had to die and the reason I'm not pregnant again ofcourse is because "God doesn't think I'm ready" It's so painful everytime I hear it!!!
3 tops annoying comments I've heard...
1. If it's meant to be, it'll happen
2. Relax, think about something else, then it'll happen
My all time fav
3. Adopt, then you'll find out your pregnant
Grrrrrrr... some people can be so frustrating....... :)
Finally, somewhere to vent! My SIL has 2 kids, with the third on the way.
My oldest sister and BIL have 2 daughters. My middle sister had her 1st at 15
w/ one guy, 2nd at 17 with a different guy, and has since had two more with
yet another guy, most recent being the first boy in the family, born at the
end of May 2003, something I was really hoping to have. Running joke in the
family is all a guy has to do is look at her and she gets pregnant. And she
has the nerve to tell my other sister that I'm stupid for going through
infertility treatments, don't I know how risky that is for the baby/babies I
could conceive? Knowing that I have PCOS, don't ovulate, and obviously can't
conceive on my own or we would've had a baby over 2 years ago! Maybe I
should've started younger like she did, then I could be just like her with 4
kids from 3 different guys, always complaining about how she can't afford
anything because she's got so many kids to provide for. My parents raised
her first 2 up until a couple years ago, and everytime I talk to my mother I
have to hear about how hard my sister has it with so many kids. DH and I
would love to have it that 'hard'!
My mom's (among other's) favorite saying is "if it's meant to be it'll
happen. God must have other plans for you." Like God planned for all those
people who abandon/beat/molest/kill their kids to be blessed with children?
Somehow they are more deserving than DH and I? How is that supposed to make
me feel? Then there's the friends who suddenly turn up pg without even
trying and say things like, it must be nice to not have kids, we can't take
vacations and stuff, we've got the kids holding us back. Well if your kids
are holding you back, why are you having more?
Why don't people THINK before they SPEAK!
And if I have to look at one more ultrasound or host one more
baby shower, I'm going to SCREAM!
We have been TTC for 5 months now.
My well-meaning co-worker actually said to me
the other day, "Look at it this way - when you get pregnant you'll get fat.
Enjoy being young and skinny as long as you can" - as if THAT'S a factor!
I cannot believe someone told me,
after finding out our problem was due to male factor,
that infertility is God's way of population control.
So, like, God wants drug addicted kids to rule the earth??
I was at a dinner of a bunch of ladies from the neighborhood and
I was explaining to two of my good neighbors sitting on ethier side of me
that I was currently in the process of doing injections of Gonal F
in order to increase the size of my follicles.
I have had two recent miscarriages and my friends knew of my ongoing battles with infertility.
Well, a neighbor that I don't know too well overheard us talking because she caught me saying;
"...I have been soooo tired lately from the shots".
She looked me straight in the eye and said,
"Gosh I have been tired too.
But I certainly did not have to do shots to get my babies".
I wanted to stand up and hand her a cookie or something! Geez!
Much love to you Momma Kath on such an outstanding site!
thanks for letting me share this with you.
KimN
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